BJ Mann Mediation Services

Save Time, Pain, and Money

BJ Mann Mediation Services

BJ Mann’s fair and affordable services help you resolve issues involved in separation and divorce quickly and affordably.

The solutions that she creates with you support you not only through the mediation process but long after the divorce is finalized.

BJ Mann’s specialty is working through all the issues as a neutral resource, especially in matters regarding care of the children, so that there are no surprises later. She offers affordable mediation services that save you time, pain, and money.

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BJ Mann can also help post-divorce couples who want to work through school, parenting, and work-related issues.

Contact BJ to learn more.

Email BJ Mann or call 585-234-8740 today
for a free consultation!

BJ Mann serves the greater Rochester NY region and offers day, evening, Saturday, and Sunday appointments. Start your divorce research here:

Divorce Mediation Resources

Get the Book

“A Better, Not Bitter Divorce”
Available on Amazon in paperback and Kindle

NY Divorce Guidelines

Online resources about children, parenting, and custody in New York State

Divorce 101 Workshops

Two-hour sessions explaining divorce in NYS

BJ Blog Table of Contents

This list of BJ’s blog posts is organized by topic

Alimony Calculator

This NYS alimony and child support calculator is courtesy of Joy Rosenthal, Esq


BJ’s clients offer their views on what it’s like to work with her.

BJ Videos

Experience BJ through her videos, TV interviews, and podcasts

Frequently Asked Questions

These cover most of the basics of working with BJ.

A Better, Not Bitter Divorce

Your Go-To Handbook  for a Better Divorce

Divorce does not have to be a bitter ordeal—and no one knows this better than BJ Mann, a leading divorce mediator in Upstate New York who has guided more than two thousand couples through the divorce mediation process.

A Better, Not Bitter Divorce: A Fair and Affordable Way to End Your Marriage gives divorcing couples the information they need to take apart their relationship as equitably as possible and rebuild their individual lives. It provides clear explanations, concise worksheets, and detailed checklists to help navigate every aspect of divorce.

A valuable guide for exploring
alternatives to divorce lawyers.
“—Kirkus Reviews
Buy BJ’s book today on Amazon

BJ Mann

Divorce Mediator
Email BJ Mann or call 585-234-8740 today
for a free consultation!

It’s Not One Divorce, It’s Four

Most talk about divorce implies it’s a one-dimensional activity: Two people decide they no longer want the legal relationship.

In fact, there are at least three parts to divorce, or four, if you have children:

  • The Legal Divorce: Understanding the law, regulations, and guidelines in divorce can be a challenge.
  • The Economic Divorce: Separating assets and finances is another kind of divorce.
  • The Emotional Divorce: Divorce means both people need to disconnect emotionally and dismantle the couple relationship. If children are involved, a new relationship must be built between the parents to see to the children’s needs.
  • The Children’s Divorce: Despite reassurances that the divorce isn’t their fault and both parents still love them, children also go through their own divorce from the life they knew.

BJ Mann guides you and helps you find resources for all four parts of divorce.


  • BJ was wonderful. She made a difficult experience much easier through her compassion, her wisdom, and her expertise. Ending a marriage is never easy, but she kept us on track, helped both of us to feel that our concerns were being heard and addressed, and guided us through the bewildering maze of details that we would never have known about if not for her. She’s incredibly kind, patient, and understanding. I’ve recommended her to several people already and will continue to do so.

    Karyn Dolan
    Former client
  • BJ and her resources were responsive to our particular circumstances and helped us create and then file an uncontested divorce agreement within a very short time frame.

    Angela Pichichero
    Former client
  • Divorce is a very difficult and emotional time of your life. I felt extremely lucky to have found BJ for our mediation. She was always very professional and open with us, and truly looked out for both of our best interests. It has been ten years since my initial meeting with her, and I still call her when I have a question. She takes her time and after all of these years, still takes care of my needs. I would highly recommend BJ Mann for mediation services.

    Jennifer Lathrop
    Former client
  • Despite our obvious stress of undergoing a divorce, BJ’s professionalism, empathy and compassion as a mediator created a relaxed atmosphere during our meetings with her. Her experience and calm demeanor made the process move smoothly and quickly, and her skill in facilitating tough conversations made them easier and less hostile for us.

    Megan Luzak
    Former client


  • Mediation is an option where the participants fully control the negotiation and communicated directly with each other under the guidance of the mediator, BJ Mann. This reduces stress and saves time and money.

    Couples who use mediation to develop their separation or divorce agreement find the experience minimizes the emotional and financial cost of divorce.

    Working with BJ Mann, an experienced, compassionate mediator, each couple discusses and resolves issues such as parenting plans, child support, marital property, retirement assets, real estate, taxes and other concerns. Couples who use mediation have a significantly better post-divorce relationship.

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